I have a problem with the term ‘domestic abuse survivor.’
Victim blaming, shaming and stigma, where domestic violence is concerned, is dangerous. Sometimes people blame victims out of lack of knowledge about abuse and so one presumes they are invulnerable. Sadly, this is what is happening in society.
Abusive marriages can be hard to leave at any age, but for older women with grownup children, there are issues that make it even harder. This is a factor service providers should have in mind as they come up with customized or targeted support.
Whether you’re swinging single and ready to mingle, in a healthy or complicated relationship, engaged, or married, may you have a day filled with love and joy!
Watching a friend go through an unhealthy and abusive relationship can be scary and challenging. Whether the abuse in question is physical, emotional, economic, sexual, or verbal, you may be at a complete loss on the best way to help them. Sometimes the first instinct may be to “save them” from the relationship but that may not go well.
Protecting women and girls from men’s violence should be every man’s business. There is a growing awareness that men, in partnership with women, can play a significant role in ending violence against women.
You may be surprised to realize that many of the behaviors you live with everyday are actually considered emotionally abusive.
Many people are being emotionally abused without realizing it. Many wonder whether they are being abused but are confused as to what exactly emotional abuse is. As a way to help clear up any confusion you may have as to whether you are being emotionally abused, I present the most common tactics used by abusive people. The typical emotional abuser has an entire repertoire of tools he or she can use to manipulate and control their partner. While not every abuser uses these tactics in a deliberate, conscious way, many do.
“Why don’t they leave?” is often the first response posed to survivors, implying that they are to blame for the abuse.
When one has no knowledge or has never experienced abuse, it can be difficult to understand the deep emotional grip abusers have on their victims. That is why to simply leave is not as easy as going to the shops. A lot of safety planning, talking to trusted friends and being ready for a healthy life has to go in to creating an escape route.
Happy Holidays and New Year from Safe Speaks.